So, Ruf and I have been together almost continuously for six weeks. He’s seen me puking, applied cream to my hemorrhoid and, consequently, he has also seen me in big, comfortable pants. A thong is just not possible when it feels as if the inside of your arse is hanging out – like one of those monkeys at the zoo.
I was reminded of this sketch from ‘Coupling’ where ‘Steve’ holds forth about the progression of a relationship in terms of womens knickers and hosiery.
The thing is that I really do love wearing thongs and hold ups. The feel of the fabric of my outfit against my bare butt cheeks makes me feel sexy. And the look of my thighs encased in lace turns me on. But, in a relationship, it is more than that.
When your man also knows that you are garbed in a scrap of frilly satin and stockings, he gets excited too. If he verbally expresses his approval of the outfit like a big woolly dog, then it adds to the whole scenario. A sneak preview of the physical delights to follow later.
There is the evening out to enjoy, but, as your eyes meet across the crowded room, there is also the anticipation of returning home for the ceremonial removal of the outer layers to reveal the lingerie beneath. And the ensuing coupling really caps a great night together.
So, it’s about feeling sexy… but it’s also about being acknowledged as such by the man in your life.
As women, we have a duty to maintain both our bodies and the contents of our underwear drawer, but it is down to our menfolk to retain and vocalise their admiration and appreciation of those efforts. Otherwise, what’s the point?
If such garments become common place and a man expects us to be wearing them, then they will become blase and stop taking note of the fact.
Sometimes big pants are a wake-up call that all is not well with a relationship. She’s stopped making an effort because he’s stopped taking the time to notice.
Women’s knickers – it’s a question of mutual respect.
Veronica almost exclusively wears thongs and I love it. Most days (when I’m home, that is!) I leave for work before she’s dressed, so she’s gotten into the habit of texting me to tell me just which pair she’s wearing and I ALWAYS let her know I appreciate her sharing.
And the longevity and success of your relationship with Veronica is proof of the theory. Communication and intimacy are key. I can only hope that Ruf and I will be able to emulate you x
Well said.
“Granny panties” can definitely be a sign of the beginning of the end, as well as letting other things go…hair, nails, makeup, general grooming. I think once one partner starts letting themselves go, it’s definitely a downturn. The question is, “Are they letting themselves go as a RESULT of the downturn, or is it the CAUSE of the downturn?”
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How has the 6-week “experiment” gone? (Aside from the obvious troubles — glad you feel better)
We coincidentally had a comment today addressing the “new” wearing off of our relationship if we were to “do daily chores” together. I disagree. Heartily.
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As a huge nerd, Coupling and Dr Who have essentially been my introduction to your corner of the world (sort ambassadorship via Steven Moffat) so I couldn’t be happier to open up my blog reader and see those three guys staring back at me, perfect clip.
On the topic of women’s underwear, I’ve had more than one girlfriend make the “now that we’ve been together a while I can wear comfortable underwear,” argument.
Not really a problem on the surface, but if the granny panties start making a regular appearance, then the lucky Simpsons boxers and the pair with the Burger King logo that say “home of the whopper,” might just come out of retirement, it’s a two way street ;-)
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Got to admit I am a lover of so called ‘Granny pants’ but have recently been expanding my underwear drawer to accommodate some more attractive undies. Thongs don’t do it for me or my guy but I love silky shorts, lace frills and opaque colours. Its amazing.
I am in constant pain due to gallstones right now but pop on some silky lacey undies and I still feel sexy.
So not only is it for mutual respect, but I believe for self respect too. I am a big woman but I am a Sexy big woman!
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LambChop – The old chicken and egg argument, huh? I suspect it’s probably a little bit of both. The six weeks together have been brilliant. I think we both have been surprised by the intensity of our feelings for each other in some of the less romantic scenarios. I think we are both fairly confident that the experiment has gone extremely well.
Rhac, Isn’t Steven Moffat brilliant! He wrote some of the best episodes of the David Tennant era and has now taken over as the main writer for Matt Smith. I think I did a whole post on Coupling earlier in the year, if you want to put it in the search box…?
I think comfy undies are acceptable in certain situations – for both parties – so long as an effort is made most of the time. What’s not to like about Simpsons boxers…? :)
Hey Sarah! Yup, I love silky shorts too. Im not so into frilly because of the problems ruffles can cause with VPL (visible panty line). I hear that Gallstones are hideous! Hope you feel better soon. And big can certainly still be sexy x
Agreed; I always make my admiration known!
And thanks for the clip — I’d almost forgotten how clever the Coupling scripts were.
Excellent! Perhaps we should start a campaign with a pithy title. Any suggestions :)
Coupling is so under-rated. I believe they tried to remake it in America… unsuccessfully. I just don’t think Jeff would translate well. He’s so peculiarly British :)
I was having a think about it, just to amuse myself — but I’ve got more of a “numbers” brain than a “words” brain, so I found it difficult to come up with something that conveys the concept but is at the same time concise and witty. Thongs Deserve Gongs? Doesn’t quite encapsulate the sentiment, does it?
Yes, the Coupling here was AWFUL!!! It was canceled after four episodes. Although, it wasn’t entirely the fault of the show not translating (although it didn’t). There are a lot of conservative Christians over here (I blame you all in the UK, you are the ones that threw ‘em on boats and sent them this way) and they started campaigns to get the “show about sex” stopped, so a lot of affiliates refused to air it when it did finally debut. The cast was actually shockingly good considering how much I loved the UK version, but it still didn’t hold up.
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LMAO, good try tho :) And certainly better than anything I came up with!