Lester was in the alley when Ruf went out to get his bike and, as usual, engaged him in conversation whilst furtively trying to look down the hallway. He had seen my car and knew I was there but he still asked: ‘Is your girlfriend here?‘
Craning his neck around Ruf like a meercat, he spotted me sitting on the sofa, and grinned.
‘I remember you!’, he called down the passage.
And then the interrogation started.
‘Is she your girlfriend?’
Ruf confirmed the answer and tried to redirect the conversation elsewhere. But Lester was having none of it.
‘Are you going to marry her?’
Ruf laughed and looked back towards me.
‘Are you going to marry me?’
I paused to smile at them both before replying:
‘I’ll give it some thought’, at which Ruf closed the door on his inquisitive, smiling little face.
It’s been mentioned a few times, the M word, over the last six weeks.
As ways to propose marriage go, it was not top of my list of romantic possibilities, but the question now hangs in the air…
HUh, I thought the “M” word was miserable.
I never have been and don;t think i ever will.
To me marriage is between two people’s souls and not in a physical sense so wasting paper to make it official is a waste of time, money and emotion when it could be better spent doing something else.
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I’m a big believer in getting married because you already might as well be married, and are just making it official. Although, my thoughts probably aren’t super helpful as I’ve never tried it.
Walker buddy, I sort of feel like your missing the point . . . but that’s just me
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i cant wait to get married :d
Thank you :)
We went through the same thing. Both of us were twice divored and in no rush. Then, one day, we just decided to go into that realm of commitment. Have never really regretted the decision, for what it’s worth. And it has been 12 years now.
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I know what you mean, Walker, although, having made a mess of it once, I’m not sure I want to do it again. And yet, this time it just seems so different, there really is a meeting of souls x
Rhac, I think we do it because it’s nice to be an official couple. However, there are all sorts of financial downsides to that official recognition too :)
MrW – Aww, well that’s encouraging x
Hey there Ms Cake *grin*.. it’s funny how that word feels for me. It’s over 3 years now since I’ve been separated and have completed the first half of my divorce and as soon as he agrees settlement, we can finalise it.
I was with him for half of my life and going through the divorce really made me think – omg why would I ever want to legally tie myself to another person ever again?!
But life is funny and I am open to the fact that you just never know and by living in the moment and not judging the now on past experiences (often experiences with other people who are also no longer in your life – nuts eh), then it opens you to new wonders.
I’ve decided to never say never. Still not sure that I’d do a legal contract but a beautiful hand tie ceremony with lots of love and friends to witness and celebrate with sounds wonderful.
I’ll leave you with this wonderful post on Facebook today by Neale Donald Walsch which is a strong reminder of how powerful and beautiful love is. And we choose how we experience it :) http://bit.ly/anUwUX
Sarah x
Hey Sarah! I too was with mine for over half my life. And I do wonder if I ever want to tie myself to someone in the same way only to face the same disappointing ending. However, I love the idea of your hand tie ceremony and Neale’s post just sounds exactly right. Celebrating the continuance of the marriage every year and never taking it for granted. Thank you for sharing it x
With Ruf, it just feels natural to want to be his wife but I don’t know if that’s because I’m conditioned by years of romantic novels to think that way…?
It’s a very individual decision. I’ve never married and never felt the need for it, but what’s right for me isn’t right for everyone; and the experiences of others can never be quite the same as your own. You should do what feels right for you.
Keith, it’s all very premature anyway, since Im not divorced yet. So I have a few months before I need to think about it seriously… and then I need to actually be asked properly :)