The Bohemian Rhapsody of Divorce – Richard Curtis
The Gods have thrown a dice and at the end of a relationship one person tends to be shattered…
I look at my Husband and I feel nothing but sadness for what might have been… for what could have been.
Having resisted other people’s assertions that I should ‘make him sell the house’, a bad business deal now leaves very little equity there anyway.
Some would say that’s his problem and it should be dealt with after my half has been withdrawn.
And I guess therein lies the difference.
Some women would take the money and run, whereas I can only think of him in the future eeking out a lowly existence in a hostel with just a state pension… and contrast the image with the better days that we once shared together.
I think those marriage vows said ‘for richer, for poorer’ and I could not live with myself if I grasped the former and wrung my hands of the latter.
In this situation, having my cake and eating it too leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
So I will shoulder my half of the debt and move forward, knowing that I did the right thing morally – even if legal advice would try to make me behave differently.
I feel exactly the same way. I know people raise their eyebrows and question the sense of my decision, but I just can’t bring myself to demand my son’s family home be sold so that I can have cold hard cash in my bank account, and no debt. It feels very wrong.
I agree with your way of thinking.
When I began my divorce after 17 years of being married I should have done things very different from a lawyers point of view.
I didn’t want to rake my now ex over the coals though. (I could have)
No matter how I feel towards her I have memories of a different time together.
Taking her down would have ruined that.
I would not feel good about myself.
Our son would most likely not respect me the way he does.
8 years later… Still glad I didn’t listen to the lawyers.
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I agree completely with your position . . . Clearly, you lack a vengeful spirit, and that speaks well for your karma . . . It doesn’t matter what the legal advice may be, or what friends think we should do . . . In the end, we have to be able to live with ourselves, and that’s what matters . . . Ciao
@Helga Hansen – I hope neither of us comes to regret the decision in the future. The spectre of new women is the chance we have to take I guess.
Hey Inferno, I think the lawyers deliberately intensify those feelings in order to make more money… or maybe it’s less commercial than that. They just dont want to be sued after the event for not getting top dollar
Snake, I try really hard to look after my karma. Thank you x