Sometimes attraction is like a worm inside your brain, eating away at your self-control. You’re totally committed to someone, have a whole life and a family with that person… and yet you find yourself drawn to another.
They make you feel so much more than the humdrum shadow of your former self that you have become.
And it’s wrong! You know it is, but you can’t help yourself. Seeing that other person is like therapy. It makes you a better spouse and parent because it buoys you up and makes you feel worthwhile.
An emotion you haven’t experienced in a long time.
But that’s when you start to get angry. Because you shouldn’t feel this way. Your Significant Other should be ensuring that all your needs are fulfilled, your insecurities rendered invalid. You need to feel more connected than you do.
They’ve let you down.
Because it’s someone else that makes you feel special.
You shouldn’t feel this way but, despite every bone in your body telling you that it’s wrong, you pick up the phone anyway…
I was angry before I even started the journey.
A cold fury with myself for giving in and calling her. But it doesn’t matter what I do, how hard I work, she is always there at the back of my mind. I need to see her. I knew I had to find a way to continue this but without hurting my family. Read more
My Commitment to my WORD, is why I maintained my Fidelity.
In my opinion, when a mutual agreement has been reached, it is not cheating, because each other has Full, Open Knowledge, and sometimes even is present…. then the Fidelity remains intact.
Now to your post…. if it was you wiggling that MOST PERFECT BUM in the WORLD, in front of me……
I do not know if i could have maintained my Fidelity….. but that is only because of that little bit of connection we have… because I Can’t do one night stands……
Now, I have given my WORD again…. but if the other part is broken, or does not materialize, then it was never accepted, and the covenant is null and void.
It is a covenant between two people, Polar, and if one is not fulfilling their side of the agreement, then I think it is acceptable to find the solution elsewhere
I think our species is not meant to be bored, and not meant to feel unwanted and undesired. Yet somehow we still forget to make others feel wanted and desired. Overall, I am generalizing, and I truly understand exactly what you have said. I have felt intensely angry in infidelity, wishing the woman I was supposed to be with knew that she wasn’t doing what another woman proved so willing to do – which was to appeal to me as a man and a human.
Yup, it’s imperative not to become complacent in a relationship. It should ongoing and evolving with plenty of tactile and verbal affection to show how much the other person means to us