Look, just because I have my bottom in my sidebar, I review a few vibrators and I write a bit of erotica, does that really make me a Sex Blog?
I mean, I view a Sex Blog as one that purely talks about sex and sexuality or has pictures and videos of cum-guzzling vixens sucking cocks left, right and centre.
I’d prefer to think of myself as more of a Life Blog, with a bit of sex thrown in. If you analyse the lives of most women of my age that’s how it is… although most of them don’t talk about some of their more nefarious activities.
I’d like to think that the majority had a vibrator tucked away somewhere… and if they haven’t, well then that’s one of my target audience!
IT’S OK TO HAVE A VIBRATOR!
It’s not a reflection on you… or even your husband.
When she reaches a certain age (normally just after 40), a woman gets the effects of a surge of testosterone due to the decreasing levels of oestrogen and progesterone as she starts to head towards Peri-Menopause. It can also happen in cycles when you’re younger if you have an implant which gives you hormone replacement therapy because of an early hysterectomy… I can remember a friend telling me that when she came back from having it replaced, she would walk through the door and throw herself at her husband because she was so horny.
These are the women for whom a vibrator is a must if they are to satisfy the strange and sudden rampancy of their desires.
But, for younger women too, why shouldn’t we masturbate if the feeling takes us? No one looks askance at a man for admitting to dealing with morning wood on a regular basis… or at any other time of the day.
It’s all part of normal life… and yet some people – probably the same ones who want to keep sex dirty and smutty and hidden away in a back room – want to make women who write about every aspect of normal life feel bad about it. As if they are abnormal.
But what is it they don’t like about it? The fact that we’re writing about it? Or just having sex at all.
I can understand that some advertisers don’t want their ‘brand’ sullied by association with a blog which is more akin to porn but is mine really obscene – as it has been described…?
Sure, there can be some nudity – but I try to keep it so that it is not overt.
Yes, there are some sex toys – but they’re just playthings for grown-ups. This is not a site for the under 18s.
OK, I do use the ‘c’ and ‘f’ words… but in their original context. This is NOT swearing and it is never gratuitous.
What I don’t understand is why certain advertisers would not want to appeal to such a large market. After all, whether this is a sex blog or not, anyone who reads it does have a life outside of their sexuality and can, therefore, be persuaded to think about those areas whilst perusing items about self-pleasuring.
Anyway, I shall continue to write as I have always done, talking about subjects that affect and impinge and enrich my daily life – be it internet marketing, parenting, health, intimacy or, heaven forfend… SEX!
And perhaps if other people weren’t quite so restricted in their thinking, they might live much happier lives.
Keep on writing as you do, love. And screw the others. And I don’t mean that in a sexual sense.
It’s your blog. Write what you want. Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke.
lolwhut? Dang, you’re a sex blog? I’d better get you off of my blogroll, I wouldn’t want to embarrass any of my readers…
I Read you because you have become My Friend!
Also because you write about LIFE!!!!
Yes the Titillating does tickle a certain segment of our lives, but in almost everything you write, causes me to evaluate where I am, What I Believe, and Where do I want to be!!!!
Than you, for being YOU!!!!
I have more vibrators than I can count. ;-) And all purchased by my husband. But I read you because I like what you write.
This is where I think you hit the nail on the head. Most businesses are run using the same old techniques repeated ad vitam eternam. It could be that no one (or not enough) has figured out a business strategy that includes sex as a normal part of life.
I’d advertise on your blog if business was better and I did more H1B1 stuff.
I find it very interesting that there seems to be no middle ground with advertisers, there is “G” and “X” and virtually nothing in between. If you mention a vibrator then the only advertising you get is bondage and porn-distributors. Although sex is a part of a normal adult (and teen) life, other than using scantily-clad women in advertisements, the US doesn’t seem to allow any hint of connection with a “decent” product..
Keep up the good work, the more you do the more mainstream the idea of sex becomes (gasp!)
Hey Guys! Thanks for all the positive comments :)
To Mark and Fruit Taster, hopefully if I can get a Page Rank then the advertisers will actually have my site put to them. Those who run the text link agencies dont seem to be interested unless you have a PR of 3… even if you have pretty high traffic levels. It’s all quite odd and I really wish I could work out the criteria for all the different rankings and at whom the advertisers think they are aiming their products.