This isn’t much of a sex blog lately, and I’m sorry for that.
But sometimes…..ya just gotta squeeze out whatever’s in there, validity or relevancy be damned.
What do YOU do when you’re not feeling your normal sexy-blogger-self? Do you just write for the sake of writing and figure the sex part will get back on track soon? Or do you go dark and quit altogether for a temporary respite?
Dangerous Lilly
So another blogger has gone public on an issue that has been affecting me for the last few months and I ask the question…
Does Dangerous Lilly really need to be about sex all the time?
This is the beef I’ve been having. The blogs are about our lives and, contrary to popular belief, there are times when even a Sex Goddess doesn’t think about fucking 24/7… because real life gets in the way.
I dont suffer from depression per se, but my anorexia is always there in the background waiting to strike and now it has a companion – the hormonal challenges of the Menopause.
A double-edged sword striking deep into the heart of my sexuality and creativity.
Added in to the fact that, at the moment, my focus is all on trying to get my new business off the ground.
It’s not surprising that my libido is suffering!
I don’t feel the urge or the need to masturbate when Im not with Ruf and, when he and I are together, my urge/need is all about getting the techie side of my websites sorted out – which I find extraordinarily difficult – so my mind is not fully on the job in hand – so to speak.
Ruf is his normal patient self until the point where his urge/needs take over and, in those situations, his persistence and love-making ability are strong enough to override any of my piffling concerns.
It is the most extraordinary feeling to wake up from one of those orgasm-fuelled snoozes with mind and body refreshed and tingling with vitality and renewed vigour.
That’s when I do my best work!
So, my advice would be to write about the subjects that are in the frame and join me in the ‘sensual blogs’ category.
As Ruf always says, enthusiasm is sexy, no matter what the context.
So, Blogger, be kind to yourself xx
Life is what we do!
the Sexy parts are Part of Life, therefore I like to Read about Life, when i don’t have one….
Polar, do you think those long days are getting to you? x
Do you feel that you should only write about sex when sex is hot and sweaty? The struggles you have, the ways that menopause affects you, how Ruf reacts to it, how you manage your relationship and your personal growth in that context, these are all things that I’m interested in reading about because they relate to the narrative that you established on this blog.
Well I did rather think that people wouldn’t want to read about the times when we didn’t have sex. But clearly I have got that wrong. I am in something of a state of transition at the moment and I need to clarify my feelings but I may well be guilty of not sharing in the way that I used to. The hormones and hot flushes make me unpredictable :)
Thanks for bringing me back into line, I rely on you guys to keep me on the straight and narrow and I shall address this issue over the next few weeks x
I guess I must be in the minority here, but I actually found you as a recovering anorexic myself. Your journey, honesty and strength have inspired beyond words, not to mention the selection of toys I now have (hadn’t gone down that road before, why?!?) Life isn’t all about the shiny hot rockin stuff so yes, be kind to yourself!
Hey Eve, Thank you so much x