Prostrate Milking - Toy Joy Private Dancer Beginner's Prostate Massager Review

It was back in 2008 that Ruf and I first tried out the Toy Joy Private Dancer Beginner’s Prostate Massager

I called the piece Putting the Arrrr Into Prostate because of the propensity that a lot of people have for spelling it with an additional R.  Making prostrate out of prostate and, if reviews of some prostate massagers are anything to go by, that’s the state a man should be aiming for when he massages his prostate.

Returning to the Toy Joy Private Dancer recently, it was interesting to compare the two experiences.

In some ways, it would have been nice to have had vibration as well – like we did with the Nexus Duo (which is no longer available to purchase) – because it makes the insertion that little bit easier. If you lubed it up and pressed the gently pulsating end against the tightly clenched muscles of the ‘starfish’ at the entrance to the anus, it really helped to relax those muscles to permit entry.

However, if you use enough lube and gently push the tip of the Private Dancer against the entrance, it will stimulate the opening. Once inside, a point is reached where it feels as if the device is being sucked in on its own.  Being able to hook on to the handle is very reassuring at this point as there is always the fear that it is about to disappear into the rectum, necessitating a visit to the Emergency Room.

Another good thing about the handle is that whoever is in control can hold on to it and  ‘rummage’ about inside, whilst  increasing the pressure of the other end onto that sensitive dip in his perineum between the anus and the scrotum.  Al the time trying to find the optimum position for prostate stimulation with the business end. And that handle is great for easy removal after you’ve finished playing.

In and out, waggling it about or circling one way and then the other. With 3.5 insertible inches of smooth coated ABA formula plastic pushing into the rectum, it should easily reach the prostate which, in most men, is about 2 inches in and on the front wall (so towards your belly). But it should be remembered that, as with women’s G Spots, the male P Spot is not always in the same place and it may well be higher or lower. Someone described finding the sweet spot as like tuning in a radio. Just a fraction to the left or right and you get no signal but, hit it spot on and you get the full frequency.

All the nerves which control your erection, ejaculation and eventual orgasm are located around the P Spot, which is why orgasms delivered through stimulating this particular point in a man have been described as earth shattering, causing the body to convulse and shake as copious amounts of ejaculant spurt forth – sometimes producing multiple climaxes.

There is also talk of ‘prostate milking’ – of even ‘prostrate milking’ – where there is no ejaculant, just fluid from the prostate – similar to the experience of a woman squirting.

Men with chronic prostatitis and benign prostatic hyperplasia can have a chronically inflamed prostate which interferes with their ability to ejaculate and prostate milking can help to drain the build up of seminal fluid. However, this technique should not be used by men with acute prostatitis as it may cause the infection to spread to other parts of the body.

If you suspect that you may have any form of prostate problem, you should consult with your doctor before engaging in prostate play.

Whether you’re looking to go to that extreme or just aiming for some additional sensation to your normal masturbatory or sexual routine, the Toy Joy Private Dancer Beginner’s Prostate Massager is a great place to start your experimentation.

Ruf has not yet managed to have his prostate milked and achieve the ultimate male orgasm… but it’s something we’re putting a lot of effort and research into over the next few months.