It’s funny because I still don’t really tell anybody about our relationship.
Certainly, not many of the inhabitants of our joint world know the truth.
That he has been my lover for the last four years. Some may suspect – because we have never made any secret that we are very fond of each other. And others will just point and judge because I was still married when we began.
I wonder what is considered a suitable amount of time that needs to elapse before I am allowed to be involved with another man?
More than anything I want to be able to hold his hand in public and not have to wonder or worry about who will see us or, more importantly, what they might think.
Because he really is my parachute. The man who stopped me from hitting the ground and splintering into a thousand pieces. He slowed the descent, made it manageable and allowed me to time my landing so that I could pick up all the threads, gather everything in and move off in a different direction without suffering any further damage.
There is a big exhibition coming up in the next few months. It’s when our two real worlds collide and a lot of our friends and acquaintances will be there.
Perhaps the time has come to start going public.
Yes, my Friend, I think it would be time to start letting those around know.
I guess it is different with us guys, in what we can do, and it is accepted. I dis-like double standards, anywhere.
Know this:
You have a Secure Love, that has gotten you through many storms, this past 4 years… and it looks like he will be by your side for Many more.
Together, you two will walk CONFIDENTLY and not only survive, but Thrive!
Please remember, you also have SO Many FRIENDS here, to also bring you cheer, in the tough times! We Know you have made the Correct choices….and we are here to Encourage You, Both!!!
“Because he really is my parachute. The man who stopped me from hitting the ground and splintering into a thousand pieces. He slowed the descent, made it manageable and allowed me to time my landing so that I could pick up all the threads, gather everything in and move off in a different direction without suffering any further damage.”
I absolutely love this part. Amazing and awesome.
peace…
Are you concerned about your ex finding out or about what your friends will think? I don’t know how liberal people are in your part of the UK, but everybody can have their own opinions. I actually find kind of odd that people would worry whether it’s too soon or not for you to date. There is only you who truly knows, and as you’ve been writing here, I think it’s time you live it all out.
When I left my ex, she called me a few weeks later to say she had met someone and see how I was about it. Truth is, it was a weight off my shoulders! The last thing I wanted was to send her into depression, so the news made me happy for her. Not that I thought it was the best thing for her but eh. :)
Your life will be even BETTER wants you’ve gone public hon. I’m so glad you’ve come so far in the last year, finally leaving your husband. It’s one of the hardest things to do….now you are being rewarded xxx
Going public sounds like heaven. I think that as long as you give your kids a heads up, it can only be good.
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