“If she doesn’t masturbate regularly, she’ll be more trouble, baggage-wise than it’s worth…”
Tim Ferriss ‘The 15 Minute Orgasm‘ chapter of ‘The 4 Hour Body’
Regular masturbation is crucial for a woman who wants to have an orgasm. For the man who wants to help her achieve this state, it’s imperative.
She needs to know how to receive the energy and be comfortable enough with her body to let it happen. As I know from personal experience, women who don’t play with themselves tend to have body image issues which can be most tiresome for both herself and her partner.
But even those women who do masturbate regularly don’t tend to like their come shot and try to hide it. To climax effectively, she needs to know how beautiful and exciting she is in that state – which means that, if you don’t want to see all your hard work go to waste from a few moments of neglect, you have to tell her.
There is nothing more guaranteed to contribute to a successful sexual experience than letting a woman know how attractive your find her. Verbalising your lust and desire, not just for the obvious but for those things about which she feels insecure. Hiding her orgasm face can be incredibly inhibiting in terms of reaching that sexual peak.
But more, going straight for penetration can mean that a couple misses out on some of the most beautiful aspects of making love. This is where Tim Ferriss’s 15 Minute Orgasm comes in.
15 minutes of pure pleasure when there is no resistance – no physical or emotional blocking – to a single point of contact between one finger and the clitoris. This state naturally leads to the involuntary contractions and flushing that most people associate with the run up to orgasm.
It is a goalless practice and it decouples orgasm from sex. There is no pressure on either partner to ‘perform’. She just has to lie back and relax, he just needs to keep a steady pressure on that little button. It’s 15 mins of 100% concentration on approx 3 sq mm of contact – nothing more.
And, joy of joys, Tim Ferriss is actually giving away a free PDF of the 15 Minute Orgasm chapter. You can download it to your iPhone or android smartphone and take Tim to bed to give you instruction.
Enjoy!
With thanks to Stephen at 4 Hour Life for this revelation.
And I do so thoroughly love to watch and it enhances the pleasure for both as you indicate. My truly favorite spectator sport, especially when it leads to participation.
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As usual, you and Ruf are in agreement, Mr W. If only all men were as enlightened!
I love to watch, and when distance is an issue I love to hear (although obviously that doesn’t let me see the beauty of the orgasm face).
Hey Freddy, I think if that fact were communicated between lovers regularly, it would definitely help matters but many women believe that having a lover means they shouldn’t need to masturbate… possibly because he might feel insecure or that it was some sort of reflection upon his ability to satisfy her. However, this post is actually about women and masturbation in general. So many don’t do it often enough… or even at all, which means they don’t really know what they like. If a woman doesn’t know what she likes, it’s going to take a very persistent and educated gentleman to help her find out.
I am amazed that some men would have trouble watching a woman maturbate.
I agree whole-heartedly with you. If a person doesn’t know how to please themselves, they can scarcely expect someone else to know either.
Ooh, mac, I nearly lost you in the MCWs. I think it’s not so much the watching as the implication that they are somehow failing in their duty…