“Does my wife love me? She certainly doesn’t understand me?”
It’s the perennial cry of the unhappy and frustrated husband. And, in many cases, they’re right.
She doesn’t understand that continual ‘little boy’ need for attention in the form of sexual relations.
“Love me, love my cock!” is a phrase that underlies the psyche of most males and if, for whatever reason, his wife refrains from such congress, then the relationship starts to hit rocky ground.
For some husbands, it’s more than that. His wife may well put out regularly but if the sex has become staid and boring, it can be almost worse than none at all.
He wants that hot chick who used to inhabit his bed, the one who used to drag him to the bedroom for sex on demand or flaunt herself around the house in sexy lingerie when he got home from work. He wants to experiment with toys and light bondage and maybe even a bit of pain but she’s too tired or too vanilla to want to join in.
The truth is that he loves his wife, loves the life they have built together and certainly doesn’t want to lose it.
But he is unhappy at a most basic and primal level, a distress which begins to permeate his whole being. That’s when the hour-glass figure of the secretary in his office, that woman in stockings and high heels in accounts, the sandwich delivery girl with her fabulous cleavage, who flirts with him as her eyes take in his body, whenever she brings his lunch – casual observations which once were merely that, suddenly these become all encompassing passions.
He starts to fantasise about what it would be like to take any or all of them to bed, dreams that have him waking up in a hot sweat of guilt as he lies next to his much loved but seemingly uninterested wife.
Good sex is so intrinsically necessary to many guys that its lack can pollute the best relationship with the desire to stray, purely to satisfy that need.
That’s where the newest type of online ‘dating’ agency comes into its own. Specifically designed for those men who need more fulfilling sex but don’t want to jeopardise their marriages. These websites introduce unhappily married people to each other and allow them permission to stray without putting their marital status at risk.
He doesn’t have to say the ubiquitous words ‘my wife doesn’t understand me’ because, more often than not, he will be with a woman who feels similarly about her own husband.
For men who wonder ‘does my wife love me?’, illicit encounters that won’t jeopardise their relationship
Having recently been through a bit of a bad patch in which a complete paucity of sex had become a tedious bore we have done a lot of revamping of our relationship in the past few weeks (combined with some good couples counseling). The results have been marvelous, I must confess and our desire to indulge a lot of fantasies (combined with good old fashioned fucking) has become paramount. So I find myself fantasizing now about my wife rather than about anybody else.
Wonderful to hear, MrW. I think counselling can be so helpful because it is done in a non-judgemental way that helps a couple to address issues with a mediator so there can be no ‘stomping off’ to ‘evade’ an uncomfortable issue if the language can be tempered to avoid ‘blame’. If a couple can manage to do that alone, even better. I would like to hope that, having put in this groundwork, you will both be able to achieve a long and fulfilling relationship xx