When I was asked to write a review of the site Pulse and Cocktails, the first thing that caught my eye was their tagline:
Couples Who Play Together Stay Together
It’s an ethos that, listening to some of my friends, rings ever more true.
The first signs of problems in a relationship is when they stop communicating – but this applies particularly in the bedroom.
If she’s just lying there and he’s going through the motions purely to achieve release…? Well, there’s not much mutual love and respect going on there.
Sex as part of a loving relationship should be an expression of that love or at least a physical fulfilment of the desires produced by that emotion.
When you’ve been together for some years, it can become difficult to find ways of expressing these feelings in different ways and your sex life come become staid, dull and repetitive – even when you’re still young. But, worse, as people get older, their bodies start to behave differently too. As a couple, you are trying to deal with physical manifestations of hormonal deficiencies over which you have no control.
Both situations are the ideal time to experiment with sex toys. These should not be some guilty secret, hidden away under the bed for when s/he goes out! But a pleasure which you both share. Clitoral stimulators and vibrators are fabulous for relaxing the pubic area and allowing lubrication to occur more easily for those women who are struggling with Sex and Menopause and for her younger sisters, they’re a mighty fine clitoral accompaniment to emphasise the thrusting and grinding activity of her man.
One of the things that I enjoy most about my interactions with Ruf is the way that we can laugh and giggle and have fun in the bedroom. It’s a source of pleasure at the time and a subject to promote intimate discussion later on.
Sure, we have some reliable favourites but how much fun to scan the catalogues and try out the new models and the different types of lingerie.
It should be a regular part of the fabric of adult life – to enjoy a few hours of naked togetherness where the focus is emotional and physical bonding away from the distractions of today’s hectic lifestyle. Not a few minutes squeezed into the schedule and done as a duty.
Take the time and explore the opportunities together.
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