We were dreading Christmas! With my new bloke and my ex around the table plus various in-laws.
In the end, with everyone behaving properly, we all had a nice time for 24 hours.
And I think that’s the clue – all those present have to put in the effort.
As soon as someone says ‘Why should I…?’, it all falls to pieces and the familiar patterns of resentful behaviour can come to the fore, precipitating disaster.
Having said that, it doesn’t mean that I want to see him at every family gathering, which is becoming extremely tiresome.
Here’s some more clues on how to deal with seasonal holidays with relatives from iVillage.